This is how it works. You tell me that you’re getting married, or have an idea for rite of passage of some sort. Perhaps your loved one has passed, and you are planning a funeral. We look at your dates. I check my calendar. If I am free on that date, we agree to meet to discuss your thoughts and needs. No obligation.
We sit and have a cup of tea. We discuss your event. We explore some possibilities, I explain my fees. You tell me about the family. We brainstorm ideas. You share your love story, or talk to me about the one you loved. We laugh, we cry. We exchange email, phone and other contact information. If you decide if we are a fit, you sign a contract. I book your date, and most of the time that day is reserved for you exclusively.
Barbara June came to our rescue at a very difficult time in our lives. She helped us make sense of our feelings and ground us enough to focus on what needed to be done in order to honour our dear friend who died in a tragic accident. Words that come to mind when I think if Barbara – calm, professional, genuine, sincere, sweet, clear, supportive, caring and compassionate…
Thank you Barbara for being all those things and so much more. Jason and Christine de Soto
I send you a questionnaire, and you and your partner or your family work through it together, and we meet for a longer session. With your stories, your dreams, your intentions, and your input, I craft your ceremony. We decide on symbols, music, or other elements. You want to include a little modern dance? Cool. A hike to a mountain meadow? Absolutely. You have unlimited access to me by phone or in person as we develop your ceremony together.
I write the ceremony, and then send it to you for approval. It is your ceremony, and you have control over every piece of it. I make changes. We make a rain plan.
I arrange to be at the rehearsal, if needed. I prepare notes for other participants (music/sound, caterers) as they relate to the successful completion of the ceremony.
I arrive at least a half hour before the ceremony. I bring my full attention to to the day, and we walk it together.
I deliver a beautiful keepsake copy of your ceremony, and thank you for including me as part of this significant threshold.
I read the draft this morning and really like it – in fact I wouldn’t change anything. At first I was a little shocked when reading one of the earlier paragraphs thinking am I prepared to share some of these personal details with family and friends. However, that’s the beauty of the story – unique, open and honest. I now fully appreciate the questions we were asked to answer and what you’ve written is a great bespoke ceremony which I’m very pleased with (much better than the traditional and rather generic ceremonies in the UK..so I’m converted!) . It’s fresh, not too mushy and really captures our journey to get to where we are. -Mark L.